When you’re children are small they depend on you for everything and you provide them with everything. You worry, you fuss, you scold and you love. You do everything in your power to provide a safe, loving, secure home for your children. You mold them and try to teach them to understand the ways of the world. You pray that they have a better understanding of the world than you did when you were growing up. You hope and pray that your children don’t suffer the mistakes and heartbreaks that you did. You raise them and then let them go.
You watch as they make their way, become their own and start their lives. You quietly observe the mistakes they make, the triumphs they experience and the loves they find for themselves. You smile thinking you raised them to be their own person, to make their way and you feel good. Then, they stumble, they forget what you taught them and they falter in what they do. You try to stay out of their lives, try not to make the decision for them; you hold your breath as they struggle. It’s their life now, not yours to control. You did what you knew how to do and now you need to let them go so they can make their own way.
This is easy to do, right? Easy to let them go off on their own and not worry anymore. That’s what you planned for from the moment they were born; to raise them and then let them go, easy to say but not so easy to do. Remember, letting them go does not mean letting go of the worry and sleepless nights, it’s not moving on with your own life and forgetting that your children are out there somewhere. Letting go is simply watching them move into their own, to try, to run, to succeed and to fail.
Letting go is having them out of your house and into their own, letting go is not making their choices for them anymore, letting go is learning to love and support and provide for them from a distance. From your own house, and, from your own heart; letting them go, so they can grow. That’s what you planned for, for them to grow and to love and to learn. All while you watch from your heart.
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